Germans and Americans have a few different standards regarding what constitutes "politeness".
Americans tend to define politeness in terms of "friendliness": smiling, telling "white lies" to avoid hurting people's feelings, pretending to like people even if we don't, saying "Hi, how are you? Germans, however, tend to consider "respect" to be the proper way to show "politeness", and "respect" assumes that the other person wants an honest answer, not some pretty little "white lie".
The most that any such "advice" can normally do is perhaps to spare an occasional bruised feeling that might result from a minor misunderstanding.
And where German and American cultures are concerned, the potential for culturally-based misunderstandings is relatively negligible, so if two people aren't open-minded enough to try to work through such insignificant differences, the relationship doesn't stand a snowflake's chance in hell of surviving anyway." However for most people whose sweetheart is German, a foreigner, there are plenty of cultural nuances and minor difficulties resulting sometimes in an alienation. Let's listen again to Lynne, the expert in human relations in general and in relations with a German man in particular.
If you're looking for good topics for conversation, try: politics, current events, philosophy, or any subject he's studying in school. When you first meet most Germans, they might seem rather humorless, but after you get to know them, most of them can relax and enjoy a good belly-laugh as well as any American. DON'T make any stupid, tasteless jokes about Nazis or saluting him and saying, "Heil Hitler! He's no more likely to be Nazi or neo-Nazi than your next-door neighbor is, and he's more likely to be a little on the sensitive side on the issue than your neighbor might be.S., and so he might react negatively towards you if you engage in much "light" conversation.If you're looking for good topics for conversation, try: politics, current events, philosophy, or any subject he's studying in school.So, if you're really wanting your ego stroked, DON'T ask him, "So, how d'you like my new dress? Likewise, DON'T EVER say anything to him "just to be nice" if you don't really mean it; he is too likely to take you quite literally at your word and then be terribly hurt later when he finds out that you didn't really mean it.Don't try to make too much "chit chat" or "small talk" with him.Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship or marriage.It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others.For the most part, you can treat him pretty much like you would almost any American man.For example, if you're the old-fashioned type, he's quite unlikely to complain if you expect him to pay for most of the dates; he'll probably half-expect it.He'll probably try to pay the bill anyway, as Germans often fight each other for the "privilege" of paying the bills, but you can then secretly pay the next bill when HE's not looking.Or, if he's the real old-fashioned type, like some American men are, he might have the perverse response of thinking that his manhood's been insulted.