There’s still a huge negative stigma about bisexual men, particularly within the African-American community after the “down low” hysteria of the late 1990s.
From HIV transmission fears to religious ostracizing to outright social rejection, Black bisexual men face unique challenges in affirming themselves.
The choice, says one expert, mainly lies with the female partner, as a woman has the final say in every relationship: either to accept or turn down a proposal.
As sexual satisfaction and compatibility are of paramount importance to their happiness, her happiness lies on how much her man satisfies her romantically.
“I’m not ashamed of my sexuality and I don’t hide anything.
When it comes to the outright denial of bisexuality in men, D.To use the site's full features, you need to allow viewing Flash content in your browser.Please press on the "rocker" to enable Flash for your browser.Discussions of sexuality, especially in Black communities, are nuanced and require further examination into what influences our acceptance of self, and the hows and whys of our disclosure choices.Our connection to religion, for example, heavily influences our ideas and behaviors related to our sexuality.It goes on to add that couples tend to start a relationship based on four important reasons: the attractiveness of the partner, shared common interests, shared similar entertainment interests, and socio-economic similarities.Sexual attraction Of all these, reports indicate that the attractiveness, comfortability and compatibility of the couple’s sexuality is the primary reason for interracial dating, and every relationship that leads to marriage starts with dating.Black men especially can find themselves struggling with reconciling notions of “masculinity” in a society that’s emasculated them for centuries.When same sex attraction is often equated with weakness among Black men, it can prove difficult for a man to even acknowledge his desires, much less openly express and act upon them.It wasn’t until he became comfortable with his attractions did he find strength to ignore the dismissals of who he was. J., realized that people simply lack the knowledge about sexuality to accept him as a bisexual man. All three men say they prefer romance with women, but find that gay men are generally more accepting of their bisexuality. Robert echoes the preference for women, but that it’s easier to date men because there’s more understanding among gay/bisexual men about the fluidity of attraction. I want people to know me as the guy who is a great friend, is there when needed, and who will lift you up at all times.Not as the guy who is all those things despite being bisexual. My personal life, while not necessarily off limits at work, isn’t a factor there.” “I realized my sexuality and color don’t define me as a man, father, and son,” Robert says.