In keeping with last week’s post about being “set apart”, Christians need to be asking ourselves why that difference hasn’t shown up in our approach to finding a marriage partner.I blog about this topic for ONE reason: because I ache over the flippancy believers have toward preparing their children for marriage.I was a victim of the dating system, as probably most of you were; so unfortunately I speak from experience, not from a “prudish, weird, unattainable model that only middle eastern countries embrace. I wasn’t the poor girl that got left out of the dating system, lest you think I’m just bitter 😉 If I’m bitter, it’s because I was fed a lie from a culture that doesn’t care about purity, truth and how dating affects marriage.And I will do all I can to stop that lie that continues to perpetuate and rob our children, and often brings shame to the picture of Christ and his bride.I think we have embraced a system that is not of God, and worse, defend it to those who would dare question it.I think it’s one of Satan’s biggest knee-slappers, and I think the modern system of dating has a lot to do with why our marriages are failing.He married at 23 and later served as the pastor of an evangelical megachurch in Maryland for more than a decade.
, written by Joshua Harris and first published in 1997, argued that traditional dating was “a training ground for divorce” because it puts people in the habit of quitting relationships when things get tough.
See, i think that my problem is that i think too much of it because i waited a long time in order to be in my first relationship so im probably in that mentality like it’s wrong. He truly is a blessing in my life and he is a man of GOD. in Cleveland A: Dear M., Please read my article, How Far is Too Far? If he’s the one for you, eventually you’ll be able to do everything (after you’re married).
You’ll never regret being too conservative before marriage, but plenty of Christians regret having gone too far.
He shared scary and supposedly true stories like Ben and Lisa’s: Christians who dated seriously, had sex, eventually broke up, and years later still “expressed emotional trauma and guilt.” .
He was a virgin who had been home-schooled his whole life—an unusual profile for the author of a book proposing “a new attitude toward romance and relationships,” as the subtitle put it.