Dawson: Do you have suggestions for how loved ones should approach those rare, unscheduled, middle-of-the-night phone calls? Be safe, stay focused, we’re all going to get through this!Mike: Maybe something along these lines: Honey, we’re okay here. (NOTE: The Hope Line® partners with Centerstone Military Services for additional resources for military personnel and their families.) Dawson: It sounds like the soldiers and their loved ones all have their individual battles to fight. Spouses, parents, children, girlfriends or boyfriends all have different types of battles to fight, but you all go to war together as a team.Some couples go through a deployment and stick together. It’s best to know all of the facts before you decide if deployment will be your breaking point. You may become involved with a new club or social network.
When you are dating a sailor, soldier, Marine, airman or Coastie you know your military man (or woman! But do you know that this is a perilous time in your relationship too? You may receive a promotion and/ or an opportunity to relocate for work.He’s in the Navy and deployed somewhere in the Middle East… This trip he’s on now has been awful since he has minimal communication opportunities, so I understand how the doubt can creep in. if they make it through the training and first deployment they can make it through anything.I’ve asked one of our partners, Mike Jones, to talk about loved ones on deployment.You may want to hear each other’s voices once a week simply to know the other person is okay.This is all based on your personal preference, but it is important to share so that lack of preferred communication doesn’t impede upon your budding romance.This gives both parties the freedom to meet new people and experience new events without any remorse or responsibility to the other person.This also allows the civilian girlfriend to really evaluate whether or not she wants to commit herself to the military lifestyle.We’ve had a problem with _____, but we’ve got it under control. The FRG (Family Resource Group) is there when I need to talk about Army stuff. If you can hang onto that kind of perspective, things are going to be a lot easier.The worst thing is fighting the battle of deployment and fighting one another at the same time.If you quickly open a soda, there is some chance the contents will foam up and spill over the top.Shake that bottle for thirty seconds before removing the top and you’ll have a much more intense experience.