For most recovering alcoholics it is important for them to avoid things such as social interactions and social situations which trigger cravings for alcohol.
This might be less of a struggle if he's 4 years sober but still something to consider and discuss with him as you move forward. Even alcoholics who have been in recovery for long periods of time have the potential to relapse.
Learning how to navigate this disorder and how it affects romantic relationships gives you important tools which can be valuable whether your choose to continue your relationship or not. Alcoholism is a chronic mental health disorder that a person will struggle with for his entire life!
Over time, a recovered alcoholic should be able to cope more effectively with his illness, but during times of stress or significant life changes his desire to drink may intensify. Share with him your views and experiences with alcoholism.
Step 3 If you really care about this guy and it's progressing into something more, you might want to consider attending an Al-Anon support group. Share your story and why you have come to the meeting.
Al-Anon is a support group focused on the people affected by alcoholism, such as wives, husbands, parents, partners and children; these groups allow people to share their experiences and benefit from the support of others. Continue your participation in the support group for as long as you feel necessary.
I'm trying very hard not to focus on the alcoholism, but it is in the back of my mind.
Its different for each person, and until you go thru it, you cannot begin to comprehend.
Does it mean you don't have compassion or listening skills? the 4 year mark is a turning point in most recovery... I don't foresee social outings involving alcohol being an issue, because like i said, I couldn't care less about drinking so it actually works for me.
I'm kind of a private person myself, and I don't want to offend him or seem like I'm prying.
Beyond the fact that he's been sober for 4 years, I know nothing about what he went through, when he realized he needed to get sober, or anything about the process.