Yes, Asians can be racist if you don't already know it.
Those from the motherland would prefer to have their children marry within the culture because of the belief that keeping one's ethnic line pure is better than intermixing with another culture.
Historically, Eastern cultures are known to be collectivist and family oriented. Survival of the tribe or family is always the essential goal, even if it involves sacrificing one’s personal preferences every once in awhile.
Regardless of the differences, if the couple truly desires to stay together and are committed to the relationship then my recommendation in therapy is for them to stay the course.
But I also know from many different couples that this can mean facing possible ostracism from family members.
In certain cases, instead of forcefully setting up their sons and daughters who have never previously met one another, the boy’s family sets up a date to visit the girl’s house and “asks for her hand in marriage.” This way, both parties and their families can actually get a say in whether or not they want to marry the person in mind. How are two people going to skip months of dating, getting to know one another, and all the other big things that go into building a strong relationship to jump into marriage?
Basically, families play matchmaker and if both parties agree, the next step is engagement. How does one go straight to engagement and skip everything that comes before?