Ashley: The second time around, after he’d lived in Seattle, he just showed up on my doorstep and kissed me. Also, it really doesn’t say much for platonic friendship if you can only be friends with people you aren’t attracted to.Kelly: The person I want to hang out with most is right next to me when I wake up.I learned this lesson the hard way when I started dating a friend in high school.Not only were we good friends, but our families were also extremely close and had been for years.We had a shared history, our siblings adored each other and we even went on a few joint-family vacations.Having personally experienced both the positives and the negatives of dating a friend, I’ll say this: there are few things more precious than a friendship that becomes more than a friendship, but there are also few things more painful than losing a romantic relationship and a friendship simultaneously. To commemorate the end of Friendship Month at Man Repeller, I interviewed five couples who braved the stakes and went from “friends” to “more than friends.” Below, their thoughts on what that leap was like.Ashley: We hooked up for a semester in college, then spent about two years being mostly just friends again while he did an internship in NY (I was still based in Indiana) then moved to Seattle.
Ashley: We met in a college class and slowly became friends.I’m booking a flight to New Orleans for this weekend. Brice: I should have been with Maggie since ’08, but then again, I suspect I am better because of the experiences in between. A decade of dating in NYC can teach you a lot about yourself.Brice: [Defers to Maggie]Maggie: We met at our first job. Crew straight out of school – he was in men’s design, I was in women’s merchandising.We dated different people, made other friends, had our own adventures, grew up. That being said, yes, some people (read: men) can’t not try and sleep with their attractive female “friends,” I’m just not that guy.Maggie: I believe in it to the extent that when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.He made me laugh a lot, but I was very suspicious of him. And he was a white boy with a slight country accent who drove a pick-up truck.I assumed he’d be more into a woman who reminded him of Taylor Swift.Kelly: I believe we handled the evolution of our relationship very consciously.Nothing felt weird to me, but the transitions didn’t just happen on their own.Kelly: Well, you spend as much time together as you possibly can, eventually you get irritated for pretty much no reason. One of our goals this year is to spend more time with other people because we need that to avoid some of those moments when we’re staring at each other and thinking, “OMG, GO AWAY!Ashley: We sometimes get stuck in our little bubble, just seeing each other, just talking to each other, just hanging out together, and it’s fun for a really long time. ”Kelly: Talk to your friend, see how they feel, and go from there.