The hello letter is a great way to start setting your sights on what's good about now.By becoming more and more aware of what's truly right about your life right now, your situational depression will start to lessen.When you give yourself a hug, I find the kind that feels the best is to wrap your arms across your chest so your hands are touching just above your armpits. Imagine the two of us are meeting for lunch one year from today... Each of my five tips for how to deal with depression resulting from divorce should build one on the other. After you've really grieved (aka cry or sob) over what you're saying goodbye to, write your hello letter. Then you're ready to start hearing what you're saying to yourself and make sure you turn up the volume on the kindness and support.
If not dealt with appropriately, situational depression can linger for much longer than it needs to. Because I want you to recover from your divorce depression as quickly as possible, here are my top 5 tips for how to deal with depression that's triggered by the loss of your marriage. Some of the things you might want to say goodbye to are your role as spouse, the traditions you had of celebrating birthdays and holidays, and seeing your kids every day.Because it's such a powerful tool for moving on from divorce, writing a hello letter isn't a one-time event.As you discover more things that are good about your life now, you could write a new hello letter or add on to your original one.3.I mean calling yourself positive, uplifting names.4. What surprises most of the people I work with is how much they miss just the casual contact of marriage — the hugs, hand holding, arm around the shoulders and even bumping into each other in the kitchen or bathroom.Some of the things I'll recommend to clients who are missing casual physical contact with another person are: schedule a massage, become known by your friends as a hugger, get a mani and/or pedi, and hug yourself. In fact, the more detail you can include the better.He doesn't have any grounds for divorce except that he's not happy.Rhonda's Question: I am married and live in California. He does not have any grounds for divorce except that he is not happy. Brette's Answer: California is a no fault state, so your husband needs no grounds or reason.Will it look bad if I change the grounds for divorce?Cat's Question: My lawyer and I filed for divorce on the grounds of cruel and inhuman treatment, and then filed a verified complaint with the court listing the reasons.Start paying attention to the conversation you’re having with yourself.If you're like most people, your internal conversation is probably something less than complimentary.